I nearly got married to my ex-girlfriend's Japanese friend

After reconnecting with his ex-girlfriend’s Japanese friend, he visited Oita; sexual intimacy quickly became a relationship and marriage proposal. Marriage paperwork and a birth certificate advanced, but the delayed embassy appointment prevented marriage before they broke up. Pain, chlamydia, sexual mismatch, repeated crying and conflict led to expulsion, one homeless night, reconciliation, renewed problems, and final separation.

He now reframes the breakup as immature regret and consciously fears repeating those patterns.