I was in love with a stupid Taiwanese girl

After years of intermittent contact, he visited a Taiwanese friend in 2016; she looked attractive, but rejected his hoped-for relationship. He abandoned his flight, retrieved luggage, secured 90 more days, and stayed three weeks with her family. Her night work, long sleep, limited communication, Ghost Month restrictions, and his isolation produced depression, anger, and a breakdown.

He recognizes clinginess and idealized expectations, but remains unsure how to change without avoiding relationships.