My Japanese girlfriend left me for a White Guy

At 18 in 2007, he dated Sayaka online nearly two years, Skyping 4–5 hours daily and learning Japanese rapidly. Sayaka left for a Czech man from an English club; devastated, he cried for weeks and confided in dad. He learned she married him and was pregnant; he says the breakup shaped distrust, bitterness, and pre-emptive cheating.

Romantic idealisation becomes defensive cynicism: he expects betrayal and cheats first to avoid it.