My Japanese wife’s family STILL hates me

Wife’s family took her on an onsen trip while he stayed alone; they still do not know the couple reconciled. After his father’s death, exclusion intensifies isolation; he longs for in-law belonging yet sees hostility as possibly protective. He considers photography or language classes to make friends, but hesitates over effort; tourist and spouse-visa plans remain unresolved.

Reconciliation restores companionship but leaves him socially isolated, family-excluded, and dependent on one relationship.